Coming out all over again..... :)~

It's Easter Sunday, and Kat and I just got back from my Aunt Mary's. I came straight to the computer cause I had to get this down while it's still fresh in my head.

I should start this by saying that my Aunts and Uncles from my Italian side of the family are Very Old School....VERY Old Country...

It was a typical Easter Sunday ..... great Family....Food....and lots of Homemade WINE... which is probably what gave my Uncle the cajones to ask me to come down to the Aunt/Uncle end of the table for a "confidential talk".....It was like a seen from the God Father.....So I'm thinking he's gonna ask me something about my family......Bwahahahahaha............oh no no no........
He starts by asking, in the thickest of Italian accents......."You and the girl.....how does that work? ......Well, now he has the attention of the whole room....My cousins and Kat are just sitting back enjoying the entertainment.....He goes on and continues.....All these years I see you together. I am so curious..... is this your wife?...How does that work? who is the Man.....who pays the bills???

I just looked down the cousin's end of the table, and asked "how many shades of red am I turning right now?!!!!"......

A few of my cousins getting ready for a walk after dinner.
Now he was sincere with his questions, he was not being lewd, and meant no disrespect.....
So I took a big breath....... and tried to think of the simplest way to say this because of the slight language barrier, and started with this....

Yes Kat is my wife......Then asked my aunt how to say gay in Italian....She says....Gay....So I look at my Uncles, and tell them that I am gay.....My Uncle Silvio then says, "that's two men.....Hmmmm, two women too?".....Then he wants to know ...Who has the man role......So I try to explain how it is different for everyone, and what makes them feel comfortable in their own bodies.....That some same sex couples do have a man role.....but for me and Kat it's an even woman to woman relationship.

At some point in this conversation I feel a hand on my shoulder, and think that it is my wife coming to support me.......But Nooooo. Kat was down there thoroughly enjoying every second of my uncomfortableness......She even convinced my cousin Ned not to come and save me.....Just plain Evil I tell ya!!!!... So finally my cousin Anthony came to my rescue.....it was his hand on my shoulder.... THanx Ant!!!

There were more questions, and answers that I can't remember right now....What was probably only 5 min. seemed like an eternity.....I asked my uncle if he understood what I was trying to tell him, and asked if we were good now. Then politely excused myself. Anthony got me up from the table, and we went down the other end. My cousins were shocked at how well I handled that. They said that was probably the most schoolin' their parents have had on the gay subject in all their lives....
I can't believe I put myself through that ......cause seriously, at the end of the day, all my uncles really wanted to know was ......Who Pays The Bills???...

Is your hand smacking your forehead right now???......cause mine is as I am writing this...LOL.....

It was time to go, and make my rounds to say good-bye to everyone. Uncle Silvio started to apologize for his questions.....I took his hand and told him that it was ok that he asked.....Then my aunt Catherine says to me "we are family, and we love you".....Then I looked at my uncle and said with a big cheesecake smile....See, you don't have to understand it all .....Ya just gotta love me.....and my aunt Mary chimed in ....YEAH!!!!......

So what seemed to start out as a very uncomfortable situation, turned out to be a blessing just to hear my aunts tell me that they love me.....and let me know that it doesn't matter to them if I am gay.